Mel's Myths Debunked

I was just reading past entries in my blog and I've realised that I've assumed a lot of things or was uncertain about things. Reading it has made me realised how I have evolved:

- "For some reason I feel a bit insecure about starting work. It's like I know its time for me to take the next step and start working but I'm scared of change and am scared work will change me. If I work 9-530 each day, what will become of me?" ... I'm actually enjoying this year a lot better than last year. I guess work gives you a sense of direction and in my limited spare time, I make the most out of it and enjoy the weekends so much more!
- There was a post about me once breaking down because I continually went out without much sleep and worked... Now that has become the norm and I'm used to it! People get surprised at how I have enough energy to do it. It's too boring staying at home
- There was a post about how I don't live the moment... I'm now a lot less analytical about things and I don't form expectations so I end up having a great time whatever I'm doing because I make the best of whatever I end up doing!
- Me being scared about being alone without Danny ... Now I've realised that I am quite a strong person and I've learned so much over this period being alone. I have grown up as a person and I view life from a different perspective yay!
-I didn't write about this but I thought that once you hit 30, fun pretty much ends. However, I've been hanging out with people in their early 30s and they party harder than people my age! It's incredible! They are actually a bit too extreme for me! But they certainly know how to have fun. And they have pretty cool parties!


Cool people in their 30s- Here is a pic of me, Rel and Johnny at Ruby Rabbit on Rel's birthday. Rel used to be on Heartbreak High (as Ryan) and was in Cruel Intentions 2!

-"Happiness is being true to yourself, knowing who you are, and knowing what you want to do"... I think I'm improving on these three aspects A quote from Chris' blog that I love:

"Close you eyes and surrender to your darkest dreams
Leave all thoughts of the world you knew before
Close your eyes, let your spirit start to soar
And you'll live as you've never lived before"

OMG

OMG. I haven't been this shocked in ages! Someone that I thought I knew quite well finally revealed to me that he's gay and I would have never ever guessed he's gay. He thinks I'm the biggest ditz because I didn't get the clues/hints. And I thought he went to the Mardi Gras just to see what it was like. And I was bagging him out for going to Fag tag. Fuck I'm stupid. What's funny is that this girl likes him and since he was talking to me revealing he was gay, she thought he was after me and he thought this guy was hot but that guy liked me and isn't gay. Omg how weird! hahaha!

Warm n Fuzzies

I've stayed home all weekend because I've got a cold. However, these things brought a smile to my face this Sunday morning (and i guess also shows how technology has allowed us so many thankful ways of contacting each other!):
- Sms from Nick saying 'Mel, get well soon. I want to party with u ASAP!'
- Opening an email from Monica who's in Europe and her accusing me of being a 'SCENE WHORE'. hahaha!
- Warren ringing me to catch up over lunch about his and my love life (needs to be done twice a week)
- Johnny explaining to me over text that feeling sideways means 'smashed, twisted off your head you know babe'
- Talking to Chris on msn when she's in Chile with her Chilean friend Esteban butting in the conversation to say "Hello. I love you. Thank you". haha! (they dont speak much english there)
- Missed call from Jesse after his gig last night. He is now back in Australia!

Being single really takes friendships to a new level and simple stuff like the above literally brings a big smile to my face and a laugh and makes me happy. Time to get off the computer now and step into the sunshine! (My cold is a bit better now)

I see a pattern...

I'm about 2.5 months into my life as being single and looking back at my diary, I have noticed that I've settled down into a routine. It wasn't until a few friends asked me, "Do you ever sleep?!?" that I realised that I have gotten used to going out nearly everyday (except Mondays to watch Desperate Housewives). Usually weeknights are for catching up with friends over dinner or drinks after work and then shopping and then the weekend goes something like this:

Fri 22/7: Went for drinks at Star City with Grandma. She's VIP there so we had free drinks and food & then watched the Kate Cebrano concert in the VIP seats. Grandma is funky- she's won a mini cooper at Star City and she's the type to be waving glowsticks at the front at concerts. Went to meet up with Nick at Oscars & Jason made drinks for me (it's so good having a bartender who knows exactly what kind of drink you want! - "Today I feel happy so a dash of something sweet plus a berry taste please" and he whips up something just for that occasion!). Then went to Home Bar to say hi to Michelle, then Chinese Laundry (yuck... only went cuz was proving to Melbournian & Pom that it's crap), then Pontoon (YUCK), then sat looking at the harbour.

Sat 30/7: Shopping. Then went to Good Bar. Thought I wouldn't know anyone because Jamson told Warren & I to come along but ended up with me knowing a bit too many people there! Major blasts from the past including my first bf's friends and someone I met in HK who happens to be in Australia at a party I was at?? Needed to get away and not used to being in an almost all asian crowd again so went to Tatlers because I was giving Jamson a tour of the X. I can write about Tatlers because it's not so hush hush now. If you walk past, you wouldn't know its a bar because it's away from the main street of Kings Cross & all you see is an iron gate. You ring a doorbell and a girl comes up to look at who you are before admitting you inside. You then go down dark stairs which opens up to an underground bar with Victorian furniture and dim lights. You can buy drugs over the counter & celebrities used to hang out there but it got raided last month. So its not so hidden anymore and has gone commercial. Anyways, we were able to get in cuz Johnny's friend was having a party. Jamson talked to an artist and I talked to Johnny and we both talked to a rapper? We then left to go to YU where I danced the night away. Jamson did a good job of keeping up for a guy! I then drove home.

Sun 31/7: Met up with Para who has come back from Denmark. Went walking around the city, asking builders why they were building a pool in the middle of Martin Place, walking through a scene shot for some Chinese TV show, looked at art at the Museum of Contemporary Art, & then talked about relationships and life at McDonalds.

The week after...

Fri 5/8: After work drinks at Uber bar. Tried a Mango beer-yum! Craig put me on the door to Sapphire Suite so went there. Bouncer told me I had to pay although I was on the door so I got pissed off and called Craig. Craig came out with someone who told the bouncer to let me in. I then told the guy that the bouncers are bastards and the club is crap. Later on that night I realised I said that to the organiser of the club-oops! I apologised and he gave me his card and said I can get on the door whenever I like. Yay! Was very crowded and the club wasn't crap that night at all and luckily was sitting in the VIP area with a model agent, actor/psychic, DJ, and a Pom. Then I saw the Oscars bartender boys and danced with them! Left thongs in Terrys car when he gave me a lift to the station.

Sat 6/8: Had coffee with Johnny in the arvo & he gave me some Dragonfly memberships. Then met up with Craig for dinner at Bondi. Then met up with Cindy & Para at Oscars plus Nick and his Melbournian friend came along. Craig the psychic told me that Cindy is a player and likes twisting nipples. Hmm.. Went to Dragonfly and fended off a tranny trying to dance with Para & then went to Nick's place to watch cable TV cuz wasn't tired. (Coffee really affects me!). Then went home and read Harry Potter until 5am cuz coffee still kept me up! Didn't get to meet up with Johnny who was at Megan Gale's 30th birthday party at the Hilton cuz he was tired so didn't get to meet the beautiful supermodel!

Sun 7/8: Went to Beauty Expo at Darling Harbour for work (Unilever owns Dove, Sunsilk etc so useful to go these things). Walked around Darling Harbour enjoying the sun and listening to ipod at same time. Went to Oscars to pick up my shoes that I had left in Terrys car & met Jeff's wife and child(1/4 Italian, 1/2 Somoan, 1/4 white-beautiful kid!) and then met up with Ben for coffee who's come back from Geneva. Went to GPK to eat with family.

Hmm... sorry this post is quite longwinded. It doesn't sound like I went out too much when I re-read it but I guess boyfriend time has been replaced by many other things. I'll leave you with a photo which I call 'Multicuturalism'.

Multiculturalism (black, half asian, asian, & white)

Elliot & me at Sounds on Sunday at Greenwood a few weeks ago. It was very pleasant meeting up on a Sunday arvo & giving each other a debrief of our weekends over a beer. We then got Thai takeaway and ate at McMahons Point overlooking beautiful Sydney harbour- lovely! Then we went back to Sounds to dance off what we ate. Then went home and slept for work the next day. I love catching up with friends like Elliot!